Samantha Coleman, Ph.D., wants to increase conversations about adoption in the Black community and to create a community for Black adoptees, like herself.
“There’s comfort in shared experiences,” said Coleman, Online Campus faculty and Director of Student Experience and Academic Advising. “It’s important to have these conversations because it can be healing to know that someone else is experiencing something similar. That you aren’t out here by yourself.”
Coleman found out that she was adopted at age 26. “I am what is called a ‘late discovery adoptee,’” she said. “This information can shatter your world and sense of identity and everything that you’ve known.”
For a decade, Coleman kept this new information about herself “in her back pocket” and only shared the discovery with her husband. In 2010, she began a search and reunion process to learn about her birth parents. She quickly discovered that there was a lack of information, resources, and community for people with her experience – Black adoptees adopted by Black families.
“There is plenty of information about transracial adoptees, Black children or children of color being adopted by white families,” Coleman said. “But there is not much about or for Black children who are adopted by Black families.”
Black to the Beginning
In 2016, Coleman started to tell her friends about her experience. Two years later, her friend Sandria Washington found out she was adopted at age 38 and has had a similar experience trying to find information and resources.
“We just don’t often hear about adoption in the Black community from the standpoint of formal adoption,” Coleman said. “A lot of times you hear about children who might have been taken in by a grandparent, an aunt, or a family friend. That is coined the ‘Black adoption,’ which does happen, but only focusing on it makes it seem like Black families don’t formally adopt, which between the two of us, we know that they do.”
Coleman and Washington began to ask themselves, “where are the other Black adoptees who have been adopted by Black families? Where are those voices? Who is experiencing something similar to us, but we have no idea where they are?”
They decided to create this community for themselves. In 2019, they incorporated Black to the Beginning, which grew to include a social media presence in May 2020. In November 2020, to kick off National Adoption Awareness Month, they launched a podcast to tell stories of Black adoptees, and everyone touched by adoption in the Black community.
“Although the Black adoptee is at the center of these conversations, we recognize that adoption also includes the adoptive parents, the birth parents, spouses, and friends,” Coleman said. “We try to assist everyone to get towards a space of healing, and help adoptees build a connection to their identity, where they come from, their roots.”
She said that through the podcast, which has been getting “a great reception,” she has found and connected with many people who relate to her situation. “It continues to shed a light on how adoption is simply not discussed in our community,” Coleman said.
She has pursued this as her personal social justice project, because “At Adler University, we are constantly trying to push the envelope and make our communities aware of what is being experienced by marginalized populations and engage in topics which may usually be off the table to discuss.”
Finding Healing in Community
Coleman said that sharing similar experiences can often help people feel more comfortable accessing wellness and mental health resources, which can help with addressing trauma, and developing a sense of belonging.
“When you are an adoptee there are often feelings of not belonging,” Coleman said. “I know what it feels like to feel down or lost for adoptees in particular.” She said this is especially pertinent when you start to talk about identity.
“In the African American community, we are sort of cut off at the legs as it relates to identity,” Coleman said. “Yes, you’re African American, but your roots are not necessarily in America, and it can be difficult or impossible to trace them back to a particular tribe or area in Africa.”
She encourages Black adoptees adopted by Black families to keep moving toward their own healing, even if they don’t see a lot of information about their situation.
“It’s also important to note if you are a Black adoptee who was adopted transracially by white parents that you are a still a Black adoptee,” Coleman said. “No one knows you are adopted unless you say something, but what people do see first is that you are a Black individual. Regardless of who your parents are, there is still community in Black people even though you may have felt that there was an erasure of identity because you were brought up in a non-Black home.“
Overall, Coleman wants fellow Black adoptees to know that there is a community out there for them. “The community is here without any judgement and we recognize the pain and the stigma that comes along with adoption,” Coleman said.
Reducing Stigma by Celebrating Black Family
By starting conversations, Coleman wants to help dispel myths about adoption within the Black community.
For example: The myth of infertility. “Historically, it has been assumed that Black women are very fertile and that they don’t have infertility issues,” Coleman said. “That’s not necessarily the case. In fact, our infertility is higher than that of our white counterparts, and that’s not talked about. But that rate means there’s more opportunity for Black families to consider adoption.”
To dispel the stigmas of adoption in the Black community, Coleman says we, as a society, must:
- Celebrate Black family. “If you look at parenting magazines, books, etc., a good chuck of content is really based on white motherhood,” Coleman said. “It’s important to bring a Black mother’s experience and choices to the conversation.”
- Have an open and flexible idea of family. “The constellation of family looks different now more than it ever has before with many different forms and structures, but it all falls under the umbrella of Black family,” Coleman said. “It’s important for us to look at family in a number of different ways. It doesn’t always involve a heterosexual couple. It doesn’t always involve a spouse. It’s really about encouraging family to look however it needs to look.”
- Dispel the myth that Black families don’t adopt. “Granted, we don’t adopt at the same rate as our white counterparts, but there are a lot of adoptions too that just aren’t simply on the record,” Coleman said. “And we also need to acknowledge that even kinship adoption is still adoption.”
“If Black people can get comfortable talking about adoption without any shame about it, that’s when we get to a place where we can be able to reduce that stigma,” Coleman said. “We have to get past these myths because there are a lot of people who want to expand their families but are not considering adoption as an option for them.”